May 08, 2009

I'm Married, So Now What?

Once the hype has died down from the proposal, engagement party, bridal shower, and wedding planning and after all is done with the wedding vows, posing at every camera, cutting the cake, kissing every guest's cheek, dancing with swollen feet, hot sex, and waking up to this dream man you have been waiting for. Before you know it, you are sitting in your new home on the couch looking at the walls wondering..."now what?"

Now the real journey begins! Chapter one in your married life should be a time where you and your husband bond all the more. There is always a bonding time on the course of marriage. I don't care how long you have been, bond, bond. Trust needs to be built up even more, communication level needs to be improved. Every married couple need to have their codes. So when in a public place or someone home, the both of you can communicate efficiently without using words. Example: tapping his foot means....taking off your glasses means....rubbing your head means.....

Spending time apart is also essential. You don't want to be up under him or baby sit his every move. Keep it fresh and the chase going. Marriage boundaries need to be set, not just for friends, but family, especially the family. Do double dates with other couples: keep the marriage fun and alive by having other couples you both enjoy hanging out with.

During this time, and throughout all the years, continue being yourself. Don't forget all the little things you did that made you happy before you got married. Continue to do them. Do you know how to live like you are single in marriage? Golden Wife, balance will be the key to just about everything. If you every feel like your are losing yourself and confused, or fearful in the marriage you just ask God for clarity and His peace. He will guide you.


yankeenaijababe said...

I enjoyed this post, a must read for every couple...still can't wait to be married.

Lady A said...

Yeah,...I'm really happy for you! Look forward to you guys jumping the broom!