Setting Boundaries In The Marriage

What is tolerated and not tolerated in your marriage and home will need to be discuss. Is it okay for husband to go out late, cursing or is smoking allowed in your home? How about your or his friends coming to your home unannounced. If you have a blended family, rules need to be established for his child's mother or your child's father. Make it clear to family and friends what is expected of them in your home. I'm not saying to give family and friends a laundry list of do's and don'ts or what is expected of them, however when a red flag appear then it's best to address the issue.

If you haven't already start setting boundaries in the marriage with your husband. You both need to have a clear understanding of the company you are keeping. Childhood friends, colleagues, associates from the job, and the like. Are they good company? Does your husband approve of them? Men who don't fit into those categories need to be reconsider of having their number. What purpose are they serving anyway? You may not understand or agree, but as time goes on in the marriage you will see why this is important. That wonderful prince you married who makes you smile every time he calls your name will make you upset and hurt one day that you are thinking the unthinkable.

Let's be real, you are human and after a heated argument or fight, you just might call up that "friend" of yours. I know you don't have feelings for him or nothing is going on, but that's how it starts, that one simple innocent call. Next thing you know, he's your secret comforter, that security blanket, that one that tells you want you need to hear. Let me put it this way, what if it was the other way around? How would you feel then?

Husband needs to do the same thing. You both may want to go over these friends and who they are to you and him. Sounds cheesy doesn't it?...well...like I said it's best to do this now.

Hopefully you both will have a good group of mutual friends and couples that have you and husband best interest at heart. It's nothing like a good support group.

If there are new friends involved (especially opposite sex), then they need to be properly introduce.

Make sure you and your husband come into agreement with friends and the boundaries. Please be honest and communicate with one other. If you don't feel good about a friend of his, just be open (not too open, for the simple fact he might go back and tell this friend what you said) and let him know.
If the husband doesn't see the friend crossing boundaries or if he defends her/him then it's best to back off just a little. Only because if you press the issue, then he will feel like he has to hide his friend. You don't want to approach him the wrong way or accuse him. He might shut down or start sneaking the calls.

Golden wife, you have to ask God for wisdom on these matters. Just remember Christ is and will always be your comforter in every situation.