March 23, 2010

Have Great Morning Sex

For most of the working world, the blaring of the alarm clock isn't a happy sound. So why not turn that rude awakening into an erotic opportunity with a roll in the 400-thread-count hay?

"Having sex in the morning releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin, which makes couples feel loving

and bonded all day long," says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good. It makes you stronger and more beautiful too: Morning sex can strengthen your immune system for the day by enhancing your levels of IgA, an antibody that protects against infection. And climaxing releases chemicals that boost levels of estrogen, which improves the tone and texture of your skin and hair. Want to max out the morning love? Follow these tips:

Give him a sexy wake up call

Set your alarm to play soft music, and as soon as you're roused, quietly slip out of your pj's. Then try this trick: If he's lying on his back, place your hands on his thighs with your thumbs pointing toward his genitals, suggests acupuncturist Alexis Arvidson. Move your thumbs in a slow, firm circular motion, two inches in diameter. According to the ancient teachings of acupuncture, rubbing this thin-skinned area will get the blood flowing straight to his nether regions. Well, isn't that convenient, since that's where you're headed next!

Get Fresh!

Sneaking off to the bathroom to brush your teeth can do more than ward off dragon breath. "Not only will your kisses be minty, but the menthol in your toothpas

te can give your guy a tingly thrill during oral sex," Herbenick says. Focus on the head of his penis and his scrotal skin, two nerve-rich areas. Just note: It takes a few minutes for the effects of menthol to work, so be patient—he may not feel

it at first.

Enjoy The View

Part of what makes morning sex so deliciously primal is that, in the light of day, it's difficult to hide your so-

called flaws. So let your insecurities take a backseat to pure, unadulterated pleasure, and instead of covering up under the blankets, throw them off

so you can both get a visual thrill. He'll bask in the eye candy, and you will too: Studies conducted by Emory University found that women are just as visually aroused as men during sex.

Take Advantage of Nature

Your guy's body is hardwired to want sex first thing in the a.m. (hello, morning wood!). "While he sleeps, the testosterone he'll use for the upcoming day accumulates," says Gabrielle Lichterman, author of 28 Days. "Fro

m the time he wakes up, he has a three-hour window when he's brimming with peak levels." Don't let them go to waste: Hop aboard his primed body for some girl-on-top action.

Boost Your Animal Lust

As soon as you're awake,

snuggle up to your guy and take a whiff. Because he hasn't showered yet, you'll feel extra turned on by his au naturel scent. According to scientists at the University of Pennsylvania, a man's musky underarm odor is a proven libido booster. Really, you can't make this stuff up!

Try A Cozy Move

Since you'll both be groggy, try a position that requires little to no effort: spooning. "While you're facing away from your guy, part your legs and guide him inside you," says New York City-based sex and marital

therapist Jane Greer, Ph.D. "His hands will be free to roam all of your hot spots, and he can whisper in your ear."

Install A Double Head Shower

Taking a shower togethe

r sounds romantic and all, but let's get real: There's room under the water for only one person at a time. Fix that by getting a double showerhead (available at any home-goods store). Then crank up the water temp; heat brings blood to the skin's surface, making it more receptive to touch. And soap each other up with peppermint shower gel; the scent wakes you up as it triggers the same nerves that are activated by smelling salts, says research from Wheeling Jesuit University in West Virginia.

Have A Quickie

Sunrise sex doesn't have to be a drawn-out affair. In fact, "mornings are the perfect time to indulge in a quickie, because you'll probably be in a rush, and the heart-pounding adrenaline of spontaneous sex will intensify the entire experience," Greer says.

Pounce on him when he least expects it (say, while he's stepping out of the shower, getting dressed, or making breakfast). And you can ditch foreplay this time—studies published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that if women ignore outside distractions (for example, the television, their laptops), they can start to become aroused in 30 seconds flat. Keep in mind: Quickies don't necessarily have to include intercourse. A hot-and-heavy makeout session, copping a fast feel, or letting him catch you checking out his butt before you dash out the door for work will go a long way toward igniting your passion.

Author: Elise Nersesian


Fran said...

Always wondered why my hubby is always in for some first thing in the morning... Now, I understand it is the way they are Nice tips here...

yankeenaijababe said...

I was thinking of something like this in the morning and you just blogged about it. So you read my nutty mind, save the rest for Mr

yankeenaijababe said...

Am I nutty to say that I love this post, really do. I reserve the rest of my comment.

Lady A said...

@Fran, me too!!! This helped out :o)
@YNC, (my tongue is sticking out @ you) TOLD YOU SO!!! We r sisters, lol! I will leave it alone!
Thanks! I'm giggling over here...

Maxine said...

They all work wonders for your marriage!awesomeness!

Lady A said...


Myne Whitman said...

I've been missing posts like this. I tell you I'm always cranky if I miss mine, hehehe. Sometimes it's just a good cuddle though. Nice article.

Lady A said...

@Myne, I have kept you all waiting too long, trust me, I will be posting more. Yeah, nothing like a good cuddle too.

Andrea said...

Lady A.. oh my.morning quickies, is something my hubby and I love.. But with pregnancy.. I just wanna sleep in the morning. Now, I love midnight lovemaking...sure puts me to sleep.

Esi W. Cleland said...

Now this makes me wanna be married already! Can't wait:)

Lady A said...

@Esi, lol, oh many perks of being married!

Mike said...

I have another title for this post "How to stay on his mind all day and have him rushing back to you the least chance he gets."
Outstanding post Lady A.

Lady A said...

@Mike, hey you!! Yeah, that post title is tricky because what may work for one hubby may not work for another. Thanks too!

In My Dreams It Was Simpler said...

Thoroughly enjoyed reading this post!