October 13, 2009

Good Wife Qualities

If you’re a wife wanting to improve yourself, your marriage or your relationship – take a look at these 7 qualities of a good wife. Good fruit will come from these basic qualities anyone can develop.

7) Nag free. Ladies, a good wife is going to be nag free. Nagging is an ineffective method of trying to get your husband to perform a task you desire. Trust me ladies – it doesn’t work and often will have the opposite of its intended affect.

6) Supportive. Are you supportive? What does it mean to be supportive? Do you belittle your man or do you help him to feel good about himself, his job, activities? Your husband will be much more respectful of you if you support him. Even when you don’t agree with him – respectfully let him know you don’t agree – then support him anyway. Otherwise, if he has difficulties – he’ll feel as though you’re adding to his troubles.

5) Build up your man. Ladies, there’s no quicker way to build resentment in your man than to criticize him – especially in front of others. On the flip side – try genuinely complementing your husband in front of other people. Your husband will glow with admiration toward you and you’ll feel his appreciation as love.

4) Keep him happy in the bedroom. Unfortunately, many women underestimate the importance of keeping her man’s needs met. Often this comes from the basic differences in women and men. For men, sexual desire is much like physical hunger and if it’s not fed properly – the relationship will struggle. Women must look to understand the needs of the man from his perspective not hers.

3) Respect. A good wife will try to treat her man with respect. How? Much of learning how to be respectful toward your husband has to do with the way you talk to him. The old phrase “It’s not so much what you say but how you say it” should become a wife’s motto. This doesn’t mean you need to be careful what you say to your husband – just be respectful in the way you say it.

2) Communicate. Ironically, good communication between men and women can be quite frustrating. However, a good wife will seek to discover what’s on her mind and find a way to express herself to her husband. Often, men and women will make a joint decision – while the man thinks she’s in agreement with him – but only to discover later that she thought the decision was a bad idea.

1) Be pleasant. Work to be pleasant toward your husband. Don’t be one of those people who makes everyone around you feel bad just because you’ve had a hard day. Good things will come from being pleasant. It’s a decision – just decide to be pleasant. But if you can’t be pleasant – make a decision not to bring him down with you.---author unknown


Soon2bMrs said...

Some very good points which would work well in any relationship. Will def be taking on board.

Lady A said...

You are right, ANY relationship. I know I need help in the nagging dept. lol.

Fran said...

Lol... we all need help in the nagging dept.

I esp like the point about being supportive even when we don't agree. And the point on respect is so spot on!

Lady A said...

God knows I think I need to fast and pray for us wives to be Nag Free, lol, but seriously! I just might.
Respect and support is so vital.
How's your job coming along?! Hope all is well!

Fran said...

Thanks for asking. Work is so far so good. It's a new start up company and at the moment a lot of policies and procedures are still being put in place, which makes my role not clearly defined as of yet. But, I'm happy to be in employment and I thank God. How are you also, hubby, kids and work?

Lady A said...

NP,but it's good that you are there in the company in the beginning. Don't despise small beginings, you never know, lol. All is well, hubby is still my hubby, lol kids are still being kids, lol, and my job is killing meeeeee, that's why I'm still looking for something else. All is well, thanks!

Femme Lounge said...

when it comes to marriage sometimes you stoop to conquer, sometimes you stand on your feet to conquer, which ever one, make sure you are communicating clearly in ways he can understand the most.

thanks for sharing these tips

Lady A said...

@Femme, mmmm, I like that...that's deep and true. Good, very good! Hope all is well!

Anonymous said...

I am newly married and new to the sex scene. Is it christian to do kinky stuff like dressing up as a nurse or using vibrators during sex to excite us both? My husband seems to like such stuff and I dont mind but I wonder if it glorifies God.

Lady A said...

@Anonymous, Congrats on being married. Enjoy!
I personally think it's somewhat ok like dressing up as characters, BUT just as long as you don't go over board. Like giving the 'character' a name everytime you dress up like a nurse, dr., construction worker, teacher, etc... it will hit you later. Like instead if your hubby wanting just YOU, he'll ask for the character, "Jessica, Kesha, Susan, Honey, Betty' Do you get me? Now you got him fantasizing about false characters. It's kinda a slap in the face. It maybe cute in the begining, but honey trust me, save yourself.

I did a post on vibrators on my 'Single or Married' Blog, so check it
out.. but if you want a fast answer, no, certain things God does not glorify in the bedroom.
Read when you get a chance.

Thanks for reading and Happy Thanksgiving!